I have specialized in newborn photography since day one of opening my business. That means I've had the opportunity to meet a lot of families during that time. Families of all shapes and sizes, of different backgrounds and cultures, with new life circumstances and events. Every family is different and unique and my philosophy has always been one of openness and understanding. Every family is doing the best they can, figuring out their own routines and habits. What works perfectly for one family, may not work for another.
But within all those differences are some universal truths to parenthood. Things that we all experience and learn. Here are the top six things I've learning about parenting since becoming a newborn photographer:
1. Anything can be a game.
I get to see a lot of toddlers in the studio for newborn sessions. Whether they’re 12 months old or three years old, they are always fun and up to new things. Since toddlers have shorter attention spans (and having photos taken isn't something they always understand), making the experience fun for them is key to a successful session. And that means anything can become a game. No matter what you're trying to achieve, playing peek-a-boo, handing out stickers, singing songs, and being silly always go a long way.
2. All the moments matter, no matter how small they are.
Remembering that we show our love when we do even the tiniest things for our kids: whether it's wiping their noses or feeding them cheerios one by one. Not every moment has to be a big one, in those slow quiet moments we can cherish everything that we have too.
3. No matter how many children you already have, your new baby will throw you for a loop.
Whether you're having your first child, or second or third (or fourth or fifth), your new baby will be a brand new experience. Sure, there are always similarities between siblings, but ultimately every kid has their own personality and desires. Getting to know your new baby while navigating parenting your other children always takes getting used to.
4. Moms should have three arms.
I say this all the time! You need one hand to hold the baby, one hand to feed the baby, and one hand to hold your phone/eat/drink/wrangle your older child. We need one more!
5. These years are short.
When you're in the thick of it, it can feel like this time will last forever - but kids grow quickly. Soon enough you'll wonder how your sweet little baby grew into such a tall, talkative kid. Take all the photos you can, and make sure you get into some of them too moms.
6. We're all doing the best we can.
There's no road map or handbook for being a parent, we're all just making it up as we go along. Enjoy the ride and let your children teach you as much as you're teaching them. After all, we could all use a little less structure and feel a little more care free each day.
